Detachment

“To spare oneself from grief at all cost can be achieved only at the price of total detachment, which excludes the ability to experience happiness”
Erich Fromm

The immediate cure to grief is detachment.  To send yourself deep into a void of despair and emptiness protects your thoughts from grief, however detachment also prevents any other emotion to incur, such as happiness.  When in the state of solitude, your humanity ceases to exist and a broken record player will continuously torture your thoughts -- all the happy memories will dissipate into sadness.  In other words, detachment does not serve to completely cure one's grief, however it is the natural step to emotionally heal yourself whether it may be a loss of a loved one or heart-broken.

Once someone goes through detachment, they will encounter a fork in the road: harden your emotions or accept the past and search for something new.  The saddest human-being, personally, is the hardened individual, one who cannot and will not move forward from his current state and refuse to be open-minded.  To refuse the opinion, the company of another, social interaction is simply the epitome of a depressed individual.  The ones who tread this path are the ones who traveled alone without the support of another.  They become hardened through the mind's natural defenses in order to continue living, never giving themselves time to understand the past events. 

With the support of your friends and family, we can move onwards from tragedy.  With the affection of another, we can redirect our grief towards a hope for a better future. 

Trust me,
Dan